"But when the right time came, the time God decided on, he sent his Son, born of a woman, born as a Jew, to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law so that he could adopt us as his very own sons."--Galatians 4:4-5.

Just as most of us do not automatically lay hold of all the freedom that is available when we are adopted into Christ, our children are not automatically freed from their past when they are adopted into our families. Wounds, fears, memories and spiritual entanglements follow them right into our homes. One man, who has a extensive background in deliverance ministry makes the strong statement, "I have never met an adopted child that didn't have a spirit of rejection." Pastoral councilor Steve Markley concurs. He noted that most of his troubled teenage clients had been adopted. Then suddenly the demographics changed and he was wondering why, when he heard a news report that it was the eighteenth anniversary of the Row vs. Wade decision. He surmised that he was no longer dealing with as many adopted teens with spirits of rejection because fewer of them were surviving to be adopted.

Most often, parents go into an adoption almost completely powerless to chose the child that will become theirs. Meaning that it's not like in the movies where you go to an orphanage and pick out the cutest kid. Someone else now makes the selection of the child almost exclusively, sometimes computers are involved in the decision. Most parents are shown the picture of one child and told what little is known about that child. To be truthful, most prospective adoptive parents are afraid that if they don't select the first child they have been presented, they might not be offered another child. Often, parents are not allowed to meet with or speak with the child before the actual placement into their homes.

We have all heard stories of people who adopted a child and then abused them. On the surface, this is baffling because the logical question would be why would anyone hurt a child that they made a choice to bring into their family? The answers are complex. Either someone, (husband, wife or child) failed to bond, because of fears, resentment or not getting what the wanted (i. e. age, sex), or something in the child (i. e. generational spirit), put up walls and drew out the worst in the parents. This is clearly a trap of the enemy to bring a lifetime of dysfunction to both the adoptee and his or her parents. Sometimes adoptive parents will invite failure by agreeing to accept a child that didn't fit their criteria in the first place or by expecting the child to fill the parents emotional needs. Both of these mistakes will quickly give Satan a foothold to tear down your family structure if you don't place the blood of Jesus between you and your error. The power of God is greater than any other. "Christ is not weak in His dealings with you, but is a mighty power within you."--II Corinthians 13:3. He wants you and your child to receive the full measure of love that he has for you. " ...it is not my Father's will that even one of these little ones should perish."--Matthew 18:14.

He allows us to make mistakes but does not desire that we make them. He knows that with each failure comes pain, and He sent His Son to carry that for us if we will only let Him. So it is never too late to ask His forgiveness, and let His healing come in. If you have not been as good to your child as you had wanted to when you took them in, ask their forgiveness, it's healthy and healing to admit when you are wrong. It also reminds us that we can't do it all on our own strength. "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."--Philippians 4:13.

According to Foster care statistics, fifty-one percent of all non-private adoptions within the U.S. are foster parents who have become bonded with their charges. The next largest percentage is by single parents. Only a small number of families are willing to wait the years it takes this country to process an application. And most families, of course, want babies. The tragedy is that there are hundreds of babies in the system, but it takes years before the paperwork is completed to free them for adoption. If you’re looking for tips on how to get an infant, here's a biggie: become foster parents. You will always be given first right of adoption if the child becomes available.

The foster care agencies will always tell you "We are not an adoption agency," but you can ignore them. You can have a newborn infant of the sex of your choice within a few months, regardless of your age. There is a downside here, if you have the child a few months or years before the adoption and the child winds up going back to a parent or relative, you will be heart broken. Handle it like a good Christian, ask to be the child's Godparent, and pray continually for the child and family. And remember, you've given them a firm foundation by loving them like they were your own. End Sample

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